The Good Patrons of 750 Words

A Note of Inspiration from Cara Hartley

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Change the name of the Wall of Shame

There should be no “failures” with writing or other creative pursuits. Nobody should be “shamed” for not meeting a certain goal.
I would very strongly encourage you to change the name of the “wall of shame” to something like “Runners Up” or “Other Participants”. Change it to something encouraging rather than discouraging, in other words.
During my entire life, I’ve felt ashamed for not being some sort of Grand Prize Winner Superstar. Most people are not Grand Prize Winner Superstars. We are simply trying to do our best.
Shame and browbeating, even done in a “humorous” fashion, can be extremely daunting to some people, particularly those with a background of psychological abuse. I learned early on from my family that I seemed to be incapable of doing anything right, and, even at 52 years old, I continue to impart this message to myself.
The word “shame” is so upsetting to me that I cannot possibly participate in a challenge which places me on a “wall of shame” for not completing it, particularly when I am unlikely to be able to. I am working massive numbers of hours a week. Being able to engage in creative pursuits should be a gift, not a punishment.
Of course those who complete the challenge should be awarded a prize for doing so. But those who do not should not be “shamed” or called failures.
I like to support anything that encourages people to engage in creative pursuits. However, my money is limited, and I cannot support anything which shames those who do not “measure up” to an exacting standard.
I know it’s only a word. But some words hurt—a lot.
I will be glad to become a member of the site again if the Wall of Shame becomes a Wall of Participation of some sort. Until then, my money is very limited right now, and, sadly, since I literally cannot participate in something where the cost of “failure” is being “shamed”, I must cancel my subscription.
I wish you well.

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